Hi, guys!
That's exactly what is happening. SW's fandoms, like so many other fandoms on the Internet, used to be a sort of haven for the ultimate geeky dudebros, so when other sorts of fans started swarming their sanctuary, they got annoyed first, and then really pissed. Not all guys are like that, thanks God, but there are far too many in fandom.
In other fandoms they treated female fans exactly the same way or even worse.
They also ridicule Tumblr saying it is just for crazy fangirls. But they are wrong, there's a bit of everything on Tumlbr, including very insightful meta. And anyway, what happens if people want to fangirl? The are entitled to doing whatever they want, as long as they respect others.
These guys don't want to educate us, they just want to drive us out, or disperse us, so that our voices get diluted in other threads.
As someone has said some posts before, guys may like whatever they like, anything, whereas those girls who like
Twilight or
50 Shades of Grey are demonized, or worse, looked down on or made fun of.
Well, I haven't read
50 Shades or have seen or read
Twilight myself. They are not my cup of tea and I think they are poor quality, forgive me if any of you are fans, but this is how I see them. However, I would never shame anyone or make fun of anyone who likes them. Who am I to tell anybody what they should like?
And what about this moralistic nonsense telling us what kind of male fictional characters we should like? What's that? That's paternalistic and disrespectful.
I don't need any guy telling me what's better for me, thank you very much. And I can distinguish fiction from reality perfectly well, as all of us here and there on the thread. In the old days, when women weren't even allowed to vote, it was believed that women shouldn't read too much because their minds were weak and couldn't tell the difference between fiction and reality. Well, it seems we haven't advanced enough in this respect. The central idea is always the same, control, trying to control women. And controlling our imaginations is the ultimate goal.
So, girls, you have to choose a NICE guy, which means one dudebros can identify with, because if you choose a different type of guy,and in this case a really sexy one, you can be sure he must be bad for you. Sexy guys are all bad, it is known! While a nice guy you don't feel attracted too is exactly what you need, yeah! That's the recipe for a happy life together, choose someone you have 0 chemistry with.
And who is nice? A guy has to decide for you, because they know better. In this case it's clear Kylo is most dangerous, he is bad news, I agree, but we expect him to come back to the right path,that's why we ship Reylo. This has nothing to do with RL and we are not thinking of sending letters to criminals in jail. And whatever we decide, it is our live and our imagination, not theirs. But they won't let us have the party in peace.
